Baker Boys,
Today is the day that your father and I will dedicate the
three of you boys to the church. We are
not only dedicating you to Life church, but we are dedicating you to God. We are making our promise to raise you in a
Christ-Centered home. There is something
equally special about this day. It is
also Mother’s Day weekend. The three
years leading up to when we found out we were going to be parents were heart
wrenching. I honestly didn’t know if I
would ever become a Mom. It made this
weekend so incredibly painful. I spent a
lot of time with God in those years. I
want you all to know that I prayed for you and God answered our prayers in His
timing. He knew exactly what he was
doing. We have three of the most perfect
miracles that I could ever ask for. Miracles
is what you all are and God is the reason you are here.
There are a few things that I want you to remember while you
go through life:
1.)
God
should always be first. I believe
with all my heart that if you put Him first then the rest of your life falls
into place. This is sometimes hard for
your mommy to accept because I selfishly think I should come first after
carrying you around for nine months. I
guess God wins though.
2.)
The world
is cruel, don’t give in to the pressure.
The media and everyone else will try to make you think you need material
things. Material things equal debt. Debt equals chains. God is the only one who can provide happiness
sons. BE WHO YOU ARE, NOT WHO THE WORLD SAYS YOU SHOULD BE!
3.)
You are
wanted. If for any reason your
father or I should do something to make you feel unloved remember this. We spent 3.2 years trying and longing for
you. It took numerous doctor
appointments, money, time, surgeries, shots and tears to conceive you. Bray you
are no exception. Just because you made
your determinedness known doesn’t mean that we didn’t long for you too. A little secret. Mommy longed to feel a singleton pregnancy
and all the things that were different than a twin pregnancy. So my little cuddle bug, you were wanted
too! Not to mention that God placed you
in our life at just the perfect time.
One day we will share that story with you.
4.)
You will
get your heart broken. I’m crying
now at the thought of this. You are only
1 & almost 3, but the thought that someone will hurt you, hurts me. There are going to be a number of people
throughout your life that will let you down.
This is not limited to a girlfriend.
You will have people who you never expected like friends and family. It is part of the world we live in. God tells us to forgive. So boys, you should forgive and pray for
those who have hurt you. Just remember
that we cannot control what others say or do but we can control who we let stay
in our lives.
5.)
Be kind
to everyone. God said no man’s sins are greater than the next. There are people all over the world that are
hurting. Don’t be the one to make them
hurt more.
6.)
Life goes
on. You are going to encounter
hardships along the way. Don’t let them
take you out. Always be an optimist and
remember #1.
7.)
We are
always here for you. Your Mom and Dad will always be your #1 fans in
life. We are pulling for each one of
you. We want to see you succeed in life
and with your walk with Christ. We will never turn our backs on you. Anything you need we are here. Even if you want to come live with us again
when you’re 30.
8.)
We will
give you tough love. We are not
always going to hand things to you because you want them. There are going to be some instances in life
where we may have to implement “tough love”.
This will be harder on us than it is on you. I hope you can one day understand what this
is about and not be angry with us.
9.)
It’s ok
to cry. Society tells you that boys
shouldn’t cry. I think society is
wrong. It is ok to feel pain and deal
with it. It is ok to be sad. I think it makes you a much better man. It makes you human. It will make you very attractive to a woman
as well. Let’s not explore this until
you are at least 25 though.
10.) You are enough! Remember when the world
around you tells you that you aren't good enough, that you are always good enough
in God’s eyes. You are also always good
enough in our eyes. Don’t let what
anyone thinks about you define you. Let
you define you. Let your relationship with God define you.
11.) Go to college. Just do it!
12.) Divorce is not an option. You are too young now for me to even fathom
you boys getting married. When you do,
remember that marriage is a commitment before God. Don’t get married unless you are ready to
fully commit to another person. This will mean putting yourself aside to make
someone else happy. Marriage is work and
sometimes it is painfully hard, but don’t ever put “divorce” in your vocabulary. Seek God not society.
13.) Don’t forget about us. It’s hard to imagine at the age you are now
that someday, if we do our job right, you are going to leave home. You will become men of your own
household. It’s just so hard to imagine that for the next
15-17 years we will have you in our home every day. Our lives revolve around you boys right
now. There is going to come a day when
you are gone. I don’t want that day to
come. I wish I could freeze time right
now. Where you, Bray, are crying to come
lay in bed with me and I pick you up and you wrap your sweet little arms around
my neck and won’t let go for the rest of the night. Or you, Beckham, with your sweet little voice
saying, “Mommy, please help me” or embarrassingly enough for you when we have
our cute little talks while you are trying to use the restroom. And you, Brody, laughing deviously and always
saying after you get your hair done, “Mom, I’m not handsome, I’m Brody
Superhero”. Gosh, I’m going to miss you
boys. I’m going to miss these days. Don’t
worry, I’ll try to keep my cool and not follow you to college. I am however not promising to not cry every
year you get older for I know that means my days are numbered before you leave
the nest. Just remember to call us just
to say hi and I love you. That will mean the world to us.
Proverbs 22:6 Train
up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from
it.
This is the verse that I live by with you three boys. My hope is that your father and I can give
you a strong faith based foundation. You
boys have changed my life for the better.
I never knew how much love my body was capable of feeling until I saw
each of you for the first time. Those
images are ingrained in my mind. I will
admit that there are several days that I get caught up in life and I forget to
pray. I can promise you that there
aren’t many days that go by though that I don’t forget to thank God for each of
you when I’m tucking you in bed at night.
I love you my three little momma’s boys. More than you will ever
know!
We love you,
Mommy and Daddy
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